On Locker Room Talk

I have little intention of discussing politics here (I’m with her, and proudly, I might add), but I am going to set aside that plan for a moment. This is more important.

Last week an audio recording surfaced of Donald Trump discussing that he has sexually assaulted women, and it’s okay because he’s famous. If you haven’t listened to it, please do. This is how he speaks when he thinks no one will catch him. He was 60 years old. He was not a teenager who didn’t know better. He was a grown ass adult.

To say that I am beyond disgusted by this would be a dramatic understatement. I’m furious. It’s disgusting. It’s indefensible. And it should disqualify him from being a human being, let alone from being president of this country.

And the defense from Trump and his supporters has been that it is “locker room talk.”


I reject this.

All men do not talk like this and we should not devalue the experience of good men by lumping them in with this piece of trash.

Crappy people talk like this. Men who don’t value women talk like this. Men who think they are above women talk like this. Men who think women are sexual objects for their taking talk like this. This is not normal discourse and it should not be excused as such.

I want to be absolutely clear about something here- if you engage in this kind of locker room talk, and by that I mean, if you say these kinds of things or if you allow the people around you to say these things, you are not welcome in our lives. Period.

One of my most important parenting goals is to teach my sons to respect women and to understand consent. To treat women as equals. To respect their boundaries no matter what. And to respect their bodies. That kind of “locker room talk” is the antithesis of what I want my boys to hear.

And so if you talk like this, please see your way out. We have no room and no tolerance for you here. I’m not sorry and you won’t be missed. This is more than politics, this is humanity and I won’t stand for this from the people in my life.



  1. I’m with you on this–and I’m proudly and happily with her!

    I do have to say though that he disqualified himself from the human race a long time before this. His racism and xenophobia should have been enough for people to know he is the lowest of the low. It makes me so sad that maybe 40% of the the United States voting population is considering electing this horrible, self-absorbed thing. (Sorry, but I just can’t call him a human or a man; he is barely either of those.)

    I could go on, but I have debate hangover and it is too early in the morning. Ugh.

  2. I agree with you 100 percent. This weekend has been filled with anxiousness, panic, and rage. He is just the lowest of the low. But we already knew that before this weekend–he keeps telling us he is a racist and a misogynist. For some people, I guess this needs to be more spelled out and said explicitly and with ugly language. And I don’t even want to talk about the women still supporting him. It is sad and frustrating and just demoralizing.

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